Wednesday, 9 September 2009


Feeling Trapped.

Trapped in a place where I don't want to live, trapped in an office doing a job I dislike, trapped by a house that wont sell, trapped by lack of money.

There seem to be a lot of obstacles in the way of The Escape.

If we could sell the flat then I would feel better in that then I would have some control over the situation.

Recently I have been thinking about approaching one of these "sell your house fast" organisations. DH wont even consider it. These organisations buy houses subject to a valuation which is usually 20% less than the market valuation. I suppose I could approach them for a valuation. It seems to me that these organisations are really for distressed sellers. But am I a distressed seller? Perhaps I am. But perhaps we should stick it out on the open market first.

Sometimes I want to scream.

We were not meant to live this way. This modern way of life is crap. It is unnatural.

I hate living in a city, too many people, too many cars, too much noise. Why do people have to drive everywhere?

I could kick myself for getting caught up in it all.


Alice said...

ahhh, you are having a shitty day. I remember those days - being trapped behind my desk, longing for escape, feeling fed up with listening to people drone on about things I was not the slightest bit interested in. BUT - you do get there!!!! you do you do you do ... It took a year to sell our house and about 4 sales that fell through before the final one. We were like 'it's never going to happen!' But it does.

Through all the crappy times you must simply try try try to stay focused on the dream. In my mind positivity creates good times. Lose focus and get bitter about it and it's bound to go wrong. But I know that when you feel like this, the words of strangers don't always hit the spot. So maybe you should go and kick a few things to get the frustration out!!!! I would be reluctant to go down the route of the 20% less valuation unless you are SUPER desperate. How about trying to market it yourself? How about a little blog to sell it? Worst case could you rent it out when you make the escape until you know where you'll be etc?

Escaping the 9-5 is a hard slog, but where there is a great deal of will, there must surely be a way!!!!!

Dreamer said...


Thanks! Your words are really comforting, its so nice to hear from someone who has been there and done it. I know I have to stay focused, must not be bitter. As you say we can always rent it out for a little while and use it as a base until we know where we are going to be - it would just make things easier if it went now.

Four sales fell through - you must have nerves of steel, thats the part I am dreading.

You are right, escaping is a hard long slog, it seems like I have been planning forever, sometimes I wonder why I have to feel this way, you know restless all the time when others I see around me just seem content with their lot.

Alice said...

I'm glad my words were of at least some comfort. It is hard and you will get many days where your nerves will most certainly be tested. Best to embrace them really and roll with it. Just remember that a large percentage of the people you think are happy with their lot - are not. They just don't have the balls to go out and change it so they achieve a sort of comfortable acceptance. For me - and I think for you too - that is just not good enough for a life that can be short. Sometimes I curse myself for constantly being restless ... we are always coming up with hair-brained ideas of what to do with our life, but the truth of the matter is that with all our ups and downs, I actually feel like I am really living. God forbid that I ever end up living in a box with a 9-5 office job again. I would take the intense ups and downs rather than the mediocre plodding any day. And there is a real sense of adventure in not knowing whether this time next year we will be running a cafe Yorkshire or living in the wilds of Alaska. The not knowing is what makes life fun for us. Stick with it - you will escape :-)

Laura @ mtp said...

I have days like this too; days when I feel so unhappy with work I could walk out immediately. This probably doesn't come through on my blog but I have a daily struggle with my job. I just try to get through each day and long for the time, which will come in the very near future, when I can leave for better things.

You will get there just keep focusing on that day :-)

Notes From The Frugal Trenches said...

I think we all go through periods of this and it all just seems so impossible at the time. Somehow, putting 1 foot in front of the other we get there in the end.


hope you are feeling better!

TravelingOnTheOutskirts said...

When I read this my jaw dropped. I didn't realize there were so many other people out there that had the same exact thoughts. :) Cheers!